The way to avoid #disappointments is not to #expect, is it true??

Well as my title question , many of us have gone through this line in their life to be better ,not to expect. But is it true ? I doubt it . In fact many of think the start to expectations is lead to disappointments .
I don’t criticize them to be wrong because definitely they have something why did they agree that . Yes we have our past full of things that crush us, regret us , hurts us or sometimes kills us . Everyone has these past things mostly related to our career,ambitions and most of most about lovelife indeed.
We humans are made to default to expect to hope and to dream about the things we fancy about . We want them badly. It may be position for someone , power for someone , love for someone or some else for someone.
But as we all know life is full of uncertainties and accidents . We didn’t get what we want always. Our hopes are crushed , our expectations are ruined badly . We get vulnerable at times ,that lead to think is it wrong to expect , is it wrong to hope or dream ??

I say………NO

U must

U must dream ,expect and hope . The hopes are what makes us to push towards our goals when we doesn’t have any energy to make A single step.
So what we are disappointed , so what we are rejected , so what someone ruined our dreams that doesn’t mean it was your fault that you were expecting.
As a human being , it is ur right and most important weapon to succeed is the hope indeed. The expectations lead us to try for our goals to be achieved . To go for glory .
She rejected you its her choice , but you loved her and expected love in back , that is not your mistake. You dreamt about something and expected to achieve that with a smile but eventually didn’t got that as way you like to, someone say you failed , may be but that doesn’t make you wrong .
It is not wrong to expect something but it is wrong not to expect again after failure. It is wrong to lose the hope . It is wrong to give up your dream just because you didn’t able to make your expectations.
You will not always come across with your expectations ,your dreams but that doesn’t make sense to decide not to expect again so that we will not get any disappointments again .
That sounds like you decide you will not will not ride the bicycle again because you fallen at first time when you were learning to ride bicycle. You expected you will ride successfully at first time . That expectation lead you to disappointment.
That example may have sounded you very childish but it is fact of life .
We sometimes expect such things which may not happen , though you gather your all efforts , you may fail that may disappoint you but that was not to expect.
It may be sometimes wrong you expected more than more which might be very fictitious and may be impossible. Thats disappoints you and its your fault to expect impossible things .
But it isn’t wrong to expect anyways. That expectations , hopes , dreams keeps you alive . Keeps you energetic even after failure. Supports you in your vulnerable and make you to achieve what you want . That may come after many disappointments but indeed it will come if you logged in with persistence and hardwork .
Remember the example of the great Abraham Lincoln , he had may defeats and rejections in his political and personal life but he stood still like steel . He made those rejections into selections and became the great and most loved president ever indeed.
So as the Thomas Edison who failed more than 1000 times to invent light bulb but at last he succeeded and had 1093 US patents on his name .
So folks it is natural to get expectations and hopes ,it may not come right always but its not out fault that we expected unless and until our expectations were out of world or freakingly nonsense.
So guys always expect ,hope and dream until you achieve it .

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Shadab its my first name and the Rogers is from captain America's name steve Rogers, i am big big fan of it.. Apart from it i am big fan of tennis especially Rafa Nadal . I love to listen music mostly i like fusion one But hey ..... Dont ask me to sing anything I am really really bad singer .. Haha On the personal counterpart i am very much single ..... Take it as a invitation ladies..... Haha ha ha just kidding folks..

Posted on August 8, 2015, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 35 Comments.

  1. Nice one

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  2. That’s an issue I deal with all the time so it was a fun read 😊

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  3. Good arguments. Agreed. 🙂

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  4. But without expecting, we won’t get any good result or a better fruitation for sure. We have to set a mental-prepared before we’re going to anticipate and be ready to accept the disappointment when it comes.

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    • Yes my friend, as i heard ” hope for the best and prepare for the worst”
      Some people think it better not to expect to avoid its circumstances
      But i feel we have to hope , expect always irrespective of results.
      Thank u dear for reading and for ur valuable comment.

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      • Ya of course! Without expecting, how can we know the exhilarating outcome. Besides, sometimes the most important process is waiting and anticipating but not the result.

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      • Ha ha .yaah
        I know the goddamm #waiting period.
        Its just complicated and brain…ing.
        You think it will come to you ,u wait and most times u end up as a fool.
        LoL

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      • There was time when I was so desperated for my friend’s message because we were having bad blood with each other and of course an inevitanle cold war did exist. And I was so devastatingly wanted to reconcile with him since he is my confidant and also he has been my friend for 14 years. Everytime whenever my phone vibrated I thought it was him but it would never be his message. I waited from morning until midnight. And it was the time he replied me with a simple sentence, apparently trying to eschew my questions. We had a really tough time at that time, but luckily we have reconciled and now we are as intimate as before, perhaps even better now. Sometimes waiting is sorrowful but the fruit of waiting might be enticing and it can be good too! Who knows? No one can predict and fathom isn’t it?

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      • Yup .my friend
        Sometimes it is fruitful,
        In my mother tongue there is phrase called ” the fruit of waiting is sweet ”
        That is case sometimes and on personal view i have also mine, 🙂 waiting for something , which is really really difficult to come but i steel hope and wait,
        But my blog is about how people criticize to them who expect something from special ones ,

        But indeed your experience is too interesting and i hope u will find a way of solution, my dear friend.

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  5. I believe in hope. Expectations can set us on dangerous emotional ground. And I think hope exists distinctly separate from expectations. So dream and hope and work toward goals; expecting nothing, grateful for everything. Nice post!

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  6. Thoughtful post.. very nice.. but as an aside.. Edison was not quite the inventor as much as an entrepreneur. And you have to remember, that it was almost exploitative in some ways. Read up on Tesla and his contributions to Edison’s many patents and you will wonder why such a great man had to be so small-minded. Nevertheless, it does not detract from his achievements, though..

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    • That can be debated.
      But no one can question on his credit of 1093 US and 2332 worldwide patents.
      And about Necoli Tesla, he is yaah Einstein level genius, most think he was one step ahead Einstein.
      But this post isn’t about scientist,it is about our human thinking.
      Hope u like it.
      Thank u dear for reading and for ur valuable comment.

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  7. I totally agree with your perspective. Disappointment comes when one gives up and not when one hopes or dreams or expect. Expectating is more like a portion of trusting and accepting I believe. Ofcourse over expecting is one thing but genuine expections should be not be seen as disappointment factors.
    A nice article I came across today :)thank you for visiting my blog.

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  8. Very insightful writing. In some cases, dissapointment happens frequently to perfectionists…. But, things would go easier when they rationalize their expectation to the optimum ability to achieve. Some others would say, do the best and God will take the rest.

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  9. I think there’s a big difference between expectation and hope, but it may be a matter of definition. To me, expectations are something someone thinks they are entitled to. They expect it, take it for granted. I think it’s good to keep these sorts of expectations low. Hopes, on the other hand, have more to do with grace and serendipity. You can always have hope.

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  10. In my opinion, we cannot help but to get our hopes up when something has made us inquisitive,or happy. But most of the time it is just that a one-time thing. It is when one quits expecting anything in return and then someone does return the interest or the happiness that it becomes such a wonderful serendipity of life. I believe I have have come to the point in my life that wen you give to someone, you give because you want to and because it gives you joy to give, not because of what it can do for you. Than you so much for visiting my blog. Blessings, Debbie

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    • Yes dear Debbie,
      We didn’t get always what we wish, sometimes from our dear once too.
      But that doesn’t mean you were wrong to expect and hope.

      And i agree you that what gives you joy about.

      Thank you this kind sweet words and your comment.
      Keep supporting.

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  11. Don’t expect…Don’t regret…heard and read that lots of time…But I think how can anyone not expect …Its a natural feeling not in our hands…yeah but sometimes it the expectations should be controlled as they can

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  12. From anyone….yes. If they don’t, its a plus, if they do, well it is what it is

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  13. There are some people who feels it’s their guilty in what they don’t get but there are many people who have jealousy with people who have same thing which they desire, and sometimes these people even don’t want to understand if you got disappointed events in your life in same way I also have mine one too and may be more drastic more than you, and if I got something or something extra from according to these people they will start to criticise you or they will show that they are not interested in those things but from deep inside they are craving for that certain things in their life

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    • Yes true.
      I have a proverb in my mother tongue that,
      It is human tendency to watch others dishes of meal , what they got extra than you.
      Rather than focusing on your own dish.
      Thank you dear for your feedbacks and comments.
      You are always welcome.

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  14. To have hope an dreams is good but the nature killing other dreams and vision should be checked out……. sorry for my provocative writing this is what I think

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  15. Yeah this is hope and dreams which keeps up our imagination activate so keep dreaming with organized mind and dynamic actions

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